Happy New Year!


OK it’s a new year! I promise to blog more, I’m really not that busy just lazy as all hell but I promise to do better guys 😉 Anywho lets talk about 2013, I decided to not to make , well not to verbalize any new years resolutions, I feel that if you have a goal you’d like to achieve just do it, no need to announce it to the world because half the time we don’t stay on task and there’s nothing worse than the world watching you fail LOL I mean basically. This year will be extremely busy for me, from the birth of my little one in April, to sending my boys off to Okinawa to visit their dad, to home repairs and remodeling, being home for 2-3 months on maternity leave not to mention, finishing Grad school! *irons cape* it’s doable and I refuse to believe otherwise. One thing about me, I don’t pussy foot around with stuff that I need to accomplish, unless im physically disabled or incapacitated it WILL get done. My love life will be put on an indefinite hold, unless God decides he wants to send my knight n shining armor to me this year then im really not checkin for him any other way. I really truly and honestly cant wait to get back in the gym lmao im so serious. My oldest will be 16 years old in 4 months where does time go? these kids grow up too damn fast! I was talking to a coworker today about what we’re gonna do when our oldest kids leave the nest, I think I will be a pure mess, he is like my right hand man LOL I can’t even begin to imagine that life, lets start with the small stuff first like driver’s ed and buying his first car. Lord, I’m getting old, and that’s fine. So let me tell y’all how lame I was on New Year’s Eve, I actually stayed up until 11:50 and fell asleep roughly around 11;55, the boys werent in town so I literally had nothing to do, no one to talk to or anything but my pillow felt amazing lmao I’m more than certain that I didn’t miss a thing. This holiday break was more than relaxing and I am well rested. What are some of your goals for the new year? a new love? a vow to increase love of self? financial freedom?…


Different Strokes

ok maybe the title was a little off but whatever im here to drop some knaledge!

My friend sent this to me and encouraged me to post it and spread the word. I agree. If everyone can remember something this simple, we could save some folks.

During a party, a friend stumbled and took a little fall – she assured everyone that she was fine and just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes. (they offered to call ambulance)

They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food – while she appeared a bit shaken up, Ingrid went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening. Ingrid’s husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital – (at 6:00pm , Ingrid passed away.)
She had suffered a stroke at the party . Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Ingrid would be with us today.

Some don’t die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead. It only takes a minute to read this…


A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke…totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.


Remember the ‘3’ steps, STR . Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster.
The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions :

S * Ask the individual to SMILE ..
T * = TALK. Ask the person to SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently) (eg ‘It is sunny out today’).
R * Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS .

If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call the ambulance and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.

NOTE : Another ‘sign’ of a stroke is
1. Ask the person to ‘stick’ out their tongue.
2. If the tongue is ‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other that is also an indication of a stroke.

A prominent cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to 10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.

And it could be your own.


F&ck Cancer

Lately I’ve come to know at least 3 people in my immediate circle that have been diagnosed with different forms of cancer, normal people, fit people, people who are complete and utter health nuts in every aspect of their lives. What gives? I recently had a scare when I noticed an abnormal lump very close to my boob. Now being chesty especially after having kids tends to jack your mammary glands all up and you can every now and then feel a little weirdness in  or around your jugs but this little fella was tricky, one day it would be there, the next day it wouldn’t, the next day it would reappear and hurt a little, so I started to panic. Scheduled a visit with the doc, Waited 2 hours past my appointment time, by then my nerves are in pieces trying to not to chew my nails down to the cuticle with anxiety. Anyway I get called back and he walks in, my doctor looks like the late George Jefferson so he does his little stroll around the room and he gets right down to business, the examination took like 15 minutes he looks up at me, smiles and says, it’s just a cyst. I could’ve kissed him but im sure that’s frowned upon highly at the VA Medical Center LOL so he’s like yea, I’ll get your surgery scheduled and we’ll get that right on outta there, goodbye. Whew all I could think was thank GOD I mean while in the waiting area  all I could think of was ugh I aint got time for nobody’s chemo and how long did it take me to grow out these beautiful curly tresses of mine? no maam and my babies how would they manage? crazy so anyway, surgery is scheduled for 2 weeks from now, it should be a quick outpatient type of everything goes as planned,but as with any surgery there are always risks not to mention the cyst still needs to be tested to ensure it is in fact non cancerous. I jokingly asked if I could get a boob reduction at no extra cost since they’ll already have a scalpel in hand, he laughed and said “why would you wanna do that”? very well I get it lol..


UPDATE **8.28.12**

My mysterious lump turned out to be just a very agitated epidermal cyst, thank God.. life goes on..

Spring cleaning

10 steps towards spring cleaning your life

I’ve reached a point in my life where I care less about trivial things and things I can’t change or control, but the little bit that I do have control over, I like to ensure that they’re working in my favor and not against me. I think to realize your true potential and to discover who you actually are as an individual you have to de-clutter in the four most important parts of your life which are Health, relationships, finances, and spirituality. This spring cleaning should be a joyous and meaningful step in the unique design of your life.


-Exercise in some form or fashion, it could be something as simple as parking farther away or popping a dvd in, in the comfort of your own home if you feel intimidated by a gym or walking outdoors, fitness can be free , invest in the time to do some research and if you can enlist a friend doggonit do it. You’ll feel better; you’ll sleep better and other limitless benefits of fitness. Whether your goal is to trim up or lose 80lbs, start somewhere, being sedentary is not cute.

Write down a health goal- cut back on drinking, lose a few lbs to avoid high blood pressure issues and diabetes <- Speaking of which, there’s no reason why you’re in your 20’s with these problems, hereditary or not, your body is your temple.


          Purge. This doesn’t just apply to the opposite sex, this applies to friendships, associates whatever and whomever is in your circle. Having 1300 friends on face book and only 2 of them give one good damn about whether you’re alive or dead, this applies in real life as well, get rid of those friends who only call you when it’s time to club, or go out-of-town, or call you to borrow money, or only come around when it benefits them but never around when you need them the most. Quote unquote BFFs, the ones that smile in your face but throw you under the bus when you’re not looking, the ones always friend hopping changing like the weather Kick their inconsistent asses to the curb. We would all love to have that one ride or die, one that would wipe your booty for you if you had no hands, in time people reveal their true selves and its up to you to take heed and adjust accordingly.

          Purge that guy you like who only seems to wanna hang out with you after hours or at his convenience. Quit putting mileage on your body thinking he’ll wanna make it official or marry you, he’s picking the newer model car with little to no mileage on it. Love thyself. Ask yourself simple questions if you need a reason; does the relationship drain you more than uplift you? Does this individual have your best interest at heart?

While you’re purging text 3 people and tell em you love em LOL!



          Do you have all the latest J. Simpson heels, Michael Kors bags but got disconnect notices in the mail from the power company?  We love to just “get by” and its disturbing. Shifting into a healthy financial mindset isn’t easy and definitely does NOT come naturally. For some the $h!t literally has to hit the fan then comes the epiphany. I wasn’t the most financially responsible individual until I actually reached the age of 30.

          Pay something off- one of the awesomest feelings in the world, it doesn’t matter if its furniture, a credit card carrying a large or small balance anything, being debt free is so sexy!

          Donate to a cause, whether it’s through tithing, a charity, a loved one that needs help <- careful with that one.

          Quit bragging about being on public assistance, when did this become cute? I didn’t get the memo



          Find your higher power,Buddha, Allah, God, Oomfufu whoever, Everyone may not believe in God but I do, if you do, renew your relationship with him and stop being one of those, “I only know him when crap goes wrong in my life” type of people.

          Forgive someone for something- I’m a Scorpio so I’m the queen of grudges *rolls eyes* I’m working on this.. slowly but surely. Harboring hate and discontent isn’t good for you, I’m pretty sure it causes cellulite or something. Clearing out spiritual clutter creates a space for blessings in our lives.


After spring cleaning , I actually felt a little lighter, you’d be surprised at how something as simple as deleting ones phone number  or telling someone no, just breaking the cycle of phuckery that has plagued your life for as long as you can remember! WOO-Sah.


And be nice to animals




Bacon Unwrapped

So, according to current news everything we eat is bad for us and we’re either gonna get cancer from it or just flat-out die mid chew or something to that effect right? I mean I freakin love bacon who doesn’t? substituting for turkey bacon was cool when I was on the South Beach diet but the cardboardy flavor later on became annoying. I mean we all want to extend our lives for as long as we can without adding extra crap to our bodies putting us on the HOV lane to death. Lets look at the facts and make an informed decision. When you think about how gross pigs are to begin with, that alone should deter you from wanting to eat it but, as humans we just… don’t give a damn lol seriously. We’re like and?…

Nutrition Facts
One slice of regular cut-bacon (about 1-ounce) has 35 calories, 3 grams of total fat (1 gram of saturated fat), and 145 milligrams of sodium, which is about 6 percent of the daily recommendation. Not-so-healthy preservatives called nitratesare often added to packaged bacon to prevent growth of bacteria and to maintain color. You may be able to find nitrate free bacon at your local butcher, farmers’ market or high-end grocer if it’s that serious to you I mean then again you’re eating part of a pig so.. yea

“In January, researchers from Sweden claimed that eating just 50g (1.7oz) of processed meat a day – the equivalent of one sausage or two rashers of bacon – raises the risk of pancreatic cancer by a fifth.

And another study claimed that a diet high in these processed meats may also lead to bowel cancer and heart disease.

But, as nutritional experts attest, pork is the most unfairly maligned of meats and a few good-quality rashers or bangers could do us good, if eaten in moderation.”

Basically eating bacon, is not gonna do your waistline any favors, I think when you eat anything in moderation, you should be fine, so what you’ll get a lil cancer here and there *scoffs* Now people who save and reuse their bacon grease? Now that is not of God and I don’t know whats gonna happen to yall but I can’t bring myself to reuse any kind of grease in my house, we just don’t do that. I dunno, I tend to do sausages more than I do bacon but I’m pretty sure you’re gonna die from eating sausage too so its a lose lose situation. I quit eating red meat a while back and apparently bacon is considered a red meat *more than the visual aspect of it of course*  Even turkey bacon falls into this category despite its name! fudge we’re all doomed.

Hi, How many months are you? Why you askin all them questions?!

That awkward moment when you ask someone that question and they aren’t pregnant at all #fail Am I the only one who wonders WHYYYYYY some women think its ok or feel comfortable walking around with a protruding belly? I’m not talking new mommies either, a lot of these women have grown kids or NO kids! When I used to work at the club I would swear up and down that 60% of the women in there were with child and shouldn’t be granted entry! What happened to us? do we just not give a damn anymore? I REFUSE!!!! to A. walk around with some pants that are so tight at the waist that it forces my fat rolls to topple over aka muffin top. B. If I do decide to wear something form-fitting and I know I got a little bit that needs tucking in and I don’t feel like holding my breath all night so I’ll wear A spanx under my Dress or whatever I’m wearing to give an even appearance. I mean whats the problem? Yes its awesome to love yourself and the skin you’re in but when did it become ok to just let it all hang out? I get that we have different upbringings shoo maybe your mama taught you to just not care about your appearance but in MY household? West Indians we are vain as hell, don’t let nothing be out-of-place, how will you ever attract the opposite sex? Who said you could leave the house like that? you’re disgracing the family! yea that’s how WE roll. In 2012 there are SO many alternatives, my first put on was the Siluet waist cincher below.

Classic Siluet waist cincher. Cotton inner layer that protects the skin. Molds your waist, lifts the bust line, and flattens the abdomen. Ergonomic rods that correct your posture. Ideal for post-partum. Three rows of hooks for better adjustment.” The logic to this was to wear it underneath your clothing and go about your daily activities all the while sweating out water weight so when you took it off at the end of the day it was a little if not a lot damp. So, you lose water weight, improve your posture and feel fuller so you eat less and over time as your midsection shrunk you would move over to the next notch. Awesome right?

Then I graduated to the Spanxx what? Now I’m not gonna lie, these things are NOT cheap which is why I could semi understand why women wouldn’t want to go through great lengths to invest in these but whatevs, there are so many alternatives and cheaper variations it’s not even funny.Now I’d be lying if I said when I tried these on in the store that my vital organs weren’t screaming for help!, I rolled around that fitting room, one leg on the wall, one on the bench trying to get into this thing. Clearly that wasnt my size, the sizes are REALLY on point and they’re alphabetical like hosiery. When I finally found the right size, right size meaning, when I had to go potty I didn’t have to try the same wonder woman moves I did when I was in the fitting room, smart enh? so great coverage, slide on and off as i please and voila. SN: my beau would never know I rock these *flips hair* and he probably wont know until our wedding night lmao. Alot of us also fail to realize that underwear is everything, for one I don’t know anyone in my circle who is wearing too small draws that show through a fitted dress or skirt thank God. I would much rather go without underoos for one night in order to keep a smooth appearance If I had a dress that would expose every fabric print of my undies. ew. There are many seamless lines of undies out there, even low-rise undies and thongs, I don’t understand, maybe I never will maybe its just NOT for me to understand, but I just thought I’d put the info out there you know sometimes folk just are NOT aware!

So you’re reading this and you’re thinking is this the same thing as faking it till you make it? well sorta and no. We all have our fitness and body goals, clearly we didn’t gain the unwanted lbs overnight and they also wont disappear overnight so, these undergarments are simply to help us get there or for some of us make us think we’re there already!