21 Questions

“Could you love me in a Bentley? Could you love me on a bus?
I’ll ask 21 questions and they all about us”

When you first meet someone, whether it’s on a dating site or in person, those first few days and weeks of dating that person is supposed to be the time to get to know them better. I personally feel like these times are crucial and you can miss vital signs and red flags during this time. If there’s something you want to know, you need to ask, there are a few that are kinda off-limits initially like: how much money do you make or whats your credit score? You’ll pick up signs of these later on, if you pay attention especially to his spending habits lol. Questions like ; whats your relationship status or what ended your last relationship are reasonable questions to ask early on. If your date seems a little hesitant or has that gas face on, well.. if that aint a red flag it should be a fuchsia one. Here is a list of a few questions you should ask and information that you should well.. know 😉 Note: I’m not nor do I claim to be an expert in dating but I do have some experience haha! Shuddup.

  1. Do you have/like/want children?
  2. What are your spiritual beliefs?
  3. What are your professional goals?
  4. Whats your biggest/proudest accomplishment?
  5. Have you had any same-sex relationships? – *shrug* I mean it doesn’t hurt to ask
  6. Are you looking for a relationship/companionship/ or just some booty- If you met on a dating site some of these things will be already answered
  7. What is a deal breaker to you?
  8. Describe your ideal mate
  9. What do you do on your off time?- I think this is important cause to me if the first word out your mouth is the club or Play station3 I got questions
  10. What are 3 words your friends use to describe you?
  11. Do you have friends? – note: steer clear of the chick that claims to only have male friends cause she doesn’t get along with females. Ditto for guys.
  12. What kind of music do you listen to?- this sounds trivial but its kinda important
  13. Do you like to travel and where have you been?
  14. What do you value most in a relationship?
  15. Do you work out?
  16. Do you believe love/marriage? – important especially if you’re dealing with a divorcee they could be scorned or whatever..
  17. What are your pet peeves? – cause you’re definitely gonna hear about mine, you’re probably doing 3 of them as we speak lol
  18. Whats your favorite movie and why?- this says a lot believe you me.
  19.  What was your childhood like?
  20. Whats your sign?- I’m not heavy into astrology but I do believe they’re truthful in identifying compatibility ie: I aint got no business with another Scorpio
  21. What do you like to eat? – important to know especially if I’m cramming food in your mouth and you have an iodine allergy yikes!

Let the convos flow, you’re aiming for friendliness not an attack or interrogation, Offer info about yourself and know how to phrase your questions, if you get an answer you don’t like, nix the attitude, take a mental note and keep it moving 😉 Also pick a venue that is convo friendly, hard to hear over bowling balls or while you’re trying to watch a movie in the theater.

 

 

What are some other questions you feel is important to ask on dates or while getting to know your potential mate?

 

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Aline
    Jul 12, 2012 @ 01:49:17

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  2. Anita
    Jul 12, 2012 @ 19:48:16

    Dr. D can I put u on speed dial? When its time for this. That number 5 whewwww. I tell you if he even hesitate a second or don’t respond right.

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  3. danounou
    Jul 12, 2012 @ 19:54:46

    Anita girl that #5 lmao! I mean, it just never hurts to ask and yes you may, these days and these dates I’ve been on are something out of a reality show but then again my life wouldnt be as exciting if everything was just normal huh? loll

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